Friday, November 9, 2012

Journeys To Mother Love Complied by Catherine Lawton

It is time for Fall Fling again! 

FIRST of all - if you HURRY you can get this book FREE in Kindle format for a few more days! :

ALSO 5 copies in print will be included in a give-away. Enter by liking Cladash Publishing on Facebook, by making comments or following Journeys To Mother Love blog, or by sharing your story as a guest post. This closes on Nov. 12th with winners announced on Tuesday the 13th of November. You can get there to enter by reading links here on my blog, or finding Cladach's Facebook page. Come join the fun and healing! :)

Journeys To Mother Love is a book about needing our Mother's love, or growing up with out that love. It is a book about healing, and lives lived, and how they turned out. In this book, NINE different ladies lay out the stories of their lives. These ladies tell us how they grew up. How their Mothers affected their lives in positive or negative ways, and how that impacted their lives and their children's lives.

These stories are moving. These lives are open and real, their pain and their joy of dealing with their Mother's is laid wide open and shared for all of us. If you read this book, I don't see how you will not be able to identify with at least one, or maybe more, of these womens' lives. This book came at a good and bad time for me. My Grandmother has just passed. In some ways it was hard for me to read this book, and in other ways it was very very good for me. I think you will enjoy and benefit from these open and honest lives laid out in order to benefit those who read it.

About The Book:
Mother love is a beautiful thing. But giving and receiving mother love doesn't always come easy. So many obstacles can get in the way. What do we do, then, with mother wounds and losses, and the unmet needs we carry? Women readers are sure to find themselves in one or more of these true stories filled with grit and grace. The courageous authors of Journeys to Mother Love aren't merely venting about their mother wounds. Neither are they giving pat answers. The hurts were real and the healing was real. From manipulation to abandonment, from neglect to favoritism, from mental illness to emotional distance, from abortion to Alzheimer's, these nine women from several generations, tell their personal stories with heart-wrenching honesty. Each had hurts and conflicts in their mother/daughter relationship that left them wounded and affected their relationships with others. Each tells how, with God's help, they experienced healing and new freedom to give and receive love. Women with broken places in their relationships with mother or child can begin their own healing journey as they read.

About the Author/Complier AND the Nine women who's lives are shared in this one book:
Compiled by Catherine Lawton

Catherine enjoys getting outdoors and observing wildlife in the Rocky Mountains and on the north Pacific coast. She cherishes moments of quiet reflection and communion with the Creator, laughter with friends, worship with other Christ-followers, and music-making with her husband (he sings, she plays piano). Born in Colorado, Catherine grew up in California, moving from one town to another as a preacher's daughter. With a BA in English and training in music, she has worked as a substitute teacher in public schools, a private piano teacher, and as a freelance writer and editor. InJourneys to Mother Love she shares a personal story of trauma, grief, and healing. Through fiction and memoir she explores the depths of our relationships with--and need for--God, each other, and nature. She sees life as a journey, an adventure, an unfolding story.

A.R. Cecil
Treva Brown
Verna Hill Simms
Kerry Luksic
Kyleen Stevenson-Braxton
Ellen Cardwell
Ardis A. Nelson
Loritta Slayton
Meet all the Contributing Authors

Visit the Journeys to Mother Love
to read posts by the contributors, share the story of your personal journey, and find helps for healing in mother/daughter relationships.

"An anthology of heartfelt true stories by Christian women about the healing gifts of God, and how He helped mothers bridge rifts between themselves and their children or stepchildren.... Profound, powerful, and emotionally moving, Journeys to Mother Love is highly recommended as a resource of faith, inspiration, and hope." -Midwest Book Review

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1. Did you laugh or cry, or both, while you were writing your story?
Ellen Cardwell: Surprisingly, I didn't do either. Rather, writing the story released something inside that needed to come out. I feel lighter now whenever Mom comes to mind.
Treva Brown: I completely did both. I also felt anger, but was able to fully release it quickly.
Ardis Nelson: I went away to a secluded camp so I could focus on writing and prayer. I cried at times. Now my tears are tears of joy.
Kerry Luksic: In writing this story, I had plenty of tears. My mom's was diagnosed with Alzheimer's eight years ago. It was hard to accept that there's no cure and that it's progressive--Mom would only get worse through each heartbreaking stage. But in sharing this story, the tears I shed were healing for me.
Loritta Slayton: I don't think I did either, but I felt the emotions again--the upset, the struggle and the joy of what God accomplished in me that I couldn't do for myself.

2. What do you especially relate to in one or more of the other women's stories?
A.R. (Alice) Cecil: I can relate to all the other authors in JOURNEYS TO MOTHER LOVE. We all found the only way to healing is through Jesus Christ, and we all want to help others by sharing our experience.
Catherine Lawton: Treva Brown tells of how her mother died even younger mine did (and by much more violent circumstances). I relate to her regret over some of the words she had said to her mother, and wishing she had said certain other words before it was too late.
Ellen: The last part of Loritta Slayton's story, "White Knuckles," took me back to when my mother needed my help and our roles were reversed. God encouraged and enabled her to let go of hurt feelings and journey down the path to love.
Treva: In "Walking My Mother Home" Ardis Nelson wrote, "I was embracing the parts of my mother that were in me." I am currently doing that now, so it really touched my heart.
Ardis: I think I was the most moved by Loritta's story. I felt her pain with each decision she made along her journey with her mother. The ending to her story was a fitting ending to the book--very encouraging.
Loritta: The emotional process of their hurts being released to God and their journeys of walking it out with Him speak to me. I was moved by Treva's descriptions of this process.

3. In what point in your relationship with your mother did you realize you needed relational healing?
Alice: My mother was always closer to me than any of her other children; I sensed her unhappiness and wanted to try to be there for her. Then in my early twenties I left home for the city to work. Transported into the world, I began to see not all the ways in my childhood home matched the ordinary way of going about life.
Catherine: The need in my heart became evident when I was going through grief over my mother's death. As you can read in the book, the Lord has ways of healing our relationships even when separated by distance, disease or death.
Ellen: When I was a new Christian and learned how important it was to forgive others. Also at that time, the relationship with our mothers was a topic of discussion with my close friends, all of whom felt they had emotional gaps that their parents, especially their mothers, hadn't filled.
Treva: Years after she died. It was a hard journey because I was unable to talk to my mom and hear her respond. But I wouldn't change a thing, for that is where I truly encountered God.
Loritta: I knew most of my life that it wasn't what it should be. But when I read A Daughter's Journey Home, by Dr. Linda Mintle, some of the pieces of the puzzle came into focus. I began to pray about my relationship with my mother and ask God to work in us. And my journaling with God and the listening practice opened the door significantly.

4. What is it that makes the mother/child relationship so significant?
Ardis: I think the mother/child relationship is a mirror of the love our heavenly father has for us.
Kerry: I never realized until I had my own children, but at the end of the day, a mother's love for a child is the strongest bond that exists--there's nothing that a mother wouldn't do to help her child.

5. What events, sensory experiences, etc., trigger your memories of your mother?
Catherine: My mother had a quip, saying, or song for every situation or occasion, it seemed. Those sayings and songs pop into my head often and remind me of her, and I "hear" her voice.
Ellen: Going to the farmer's market, smelling apple pies baking ... sewing, bringing flowers in the house ... Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays.
Treva: A certain Dolly Parton song, camping and eating spaghetti. My mom loved spaghetti.
Ardis: This may sound strange, but I think I am most reminded of my mother in my writing and speaking opportunities. I feel that she is proud of me for who I am finally becoming that I get a great sense of her presence with me. In a way, I think it makes up for not having her there when I was young.
Loritta: My mother enjoyed flowers and colors in shades of purples, aquas, violets. Just this week I walked past orchids in the grocery store that are tinted in those tones and thought of her.

6. Do you ever see your mom in yourself?
Catherine: Every time I make the choice and the effort to be positive, to engage with other people when I feel like pulling away ... I think of my mother who modeled those attitudes to me.
Ellen: Yes. She had an authoritative way of speaking. She would make pronouncements (not always based on facts), pontificate and discourage discussion. I still find myself sounding like her, even though I've tried for years to overcome it. When I notice myself doing the same thing, it lets me know how ingrained her attitudes were/are in me. I feel frustrated that it's still there inside my personality. Then I'm motivated to revisit my efforts to change and make it more of a priority to do so.
Treva: At times I do. I used to despise it. But God was able to bring me to a place of embracing those characteristics and bring me more understanding of my mom.
Verna Hill Simms: I remind myself of Mother every time I sit in the living room and watch for the mail carrier. Mail means a lot to me as it did to her.
Ardis: This question hits to the core area of my personal healing when my mother died. I was able to integrate and embrace the parts of my mother that I had been rejecting all my life. Thanks to the Lord's work in me, I am no longer embarrassed by our similarities.
Kerry: Yes. I especially see my mom in myself when I'm faced with a tough challenge. My mom never gave up on anything and she leaned on her faith during the hardest times. When I'm going through a tough time, I think of mom and follow her example. Whenever I feel like life is a bit too hard, I remember my mom's example and immediately feel stronger.

7. In what way is mother love a journey?
Alice: I wonder how God would have brought me along without children! I know there are people who do not have children and who have a deep relationship with God, but God knew I needed children!
Ellen: For me, mother love grew from an unrealistic ideal to a reality based on experience. Each stage of our children's growth, from elementary school to junior high to high school has challenges of its own. As I journeyed along with my children, my love was tested, strengthened and developed through the ups and downs they experienced. My love grew from the tenderest feelings for our infants to caring for their needs while juggling other responsibilities, to tough love as they tested boundaries. Mother love survived the smooth and rocky places along the path because, I believe, it originates in God's love for us all.
Ardis: I am seeing this theme poignantly in my life now. Just today I had a conversation with my 15 year old son about this. We had connecting time while attending a doctor's appointment. I didn't have any of that with my parents. I am embracing the journey of learning how to mother anew, be a "sister" to Rosa, an "aunt" to Pedro, and a daughter to my stepmother. This journey is connecting me with my heart and allowing me to share it with others.
Kerry: Mother love is a journey because life is a journey. There are ups and there are downs. There are moments of joy and moments of sheer pain; but through all of it, love is the foundation. My mom has progressed to the advanced stage of Alzheimer's, and this is the final destination in our journey. It's a heartbreaking disease, but I have peace knowing that at the end of my mom's journey here on earth, she will be rewarded for her lifetime of love. faith, and determination--the gift of Heaven.
Loritta: You can't understand everything from one vantage point. You have to climb that mountain and look back sometimes, and other times you just have to put your hand in God's and let Him talk to you about what you need to know that only He can reveal in a way that you can receive.


Ardis A. Nelson said...

Thanks for your thoughtful review of the book. Sorry for your loss. These stories do have a way of touching us just where we need it today.

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